What this even is
We Are Designed calculates a description of a person from the moment of their birth. People open an account for themselves and then add to their own private list the people who matter to them — a partner, a parent, a friend — to see what comes out of placing two such descriptions side by side. If somebody added you, it means they entered your name and your date of birth from their own memory.
What exactly could be here about you
Four things and not one more: the name that person gave you — a first name, a nickname, whatever they typed — the date and hour of your birth, as much of it as they knew, the town of your birth, if they picked it from our list, with the coordinates of that town's centre rather than your address, and, only if they gave it, your sex. Sex is optional and serves only the systems that cannot compute without it.
There is no surname here, no address, no phone number, no photograph, no note about you and nothing you ever told that person. A field for a note about another human being does not exist in this product at all, and it is not going to.
Where it came from
From the hand of one person who has an account here, and from nowhere else. We do not buy data, we do not take it from any register, we do not collect it from the web and we do not join accounts together. We have no way of contacting you and we deliberately do not collect one — which is why we could not ask you anything, and why this page exists at all.
Who sees it
Only the person who entered it, on their own account. There is no directory of people here, you cannot be searched for, and two accounts holding the same person know nothing about each other and never will.
Where it travels on to
Today nothing leaves this place at all. A weekly letter about a relationship, written by a language model, is planned — and when it exists, the calculated result will go to that model's provider: without your name, without the date in calendar form and without a place. We say so now, because the day of your birth can be reconstructed from that result alone, so we will not pretend that what travels there is harmless. Apart from that one exit, everything stands on our own server in the European Union.
What you can do about it
Two things, both without an account and both free: find out whether you are here, and have it erased. You do not have to give a reason and we will not ask for one.
How to do it
Write to us. In your message give your date of birth — without it we have no way of finding you, because that is exactly what we search by — and, if you know it, the name under which somebody may have entered you. We will not ask for anything more until it is genuinely needed to be sure that you are writing about yourself: proving identity would itself enlarge the data we hold about you.
data@wearedesigned.com
This mailbox does not receive post yet — we are setting it up, so a message sent today will not arrive, and we would rather tell you than let you find out from silence. Your rights do not depend on our mailbox: you can complain to your data protection authority right now. Once the address is live, we answer within one month at the latest.
What you will learn, and what you will not
You will learn whether an entry matching your details was held here and exactly what it contained. We will not tell you who entered you — that is information about another person and about the relationship between you, and that protection works in both directions.
When you tell us to erase it, the entry goes irreversibly and no copy is left from which it could be restored. The person who entered you will see that the item has gone from their list and will not learn why or from whom — because among such requests there are those made by people escaping somebody. If you want them to be told, say so in your message and we will pass it on. That is your decision, not ours.
Why you should believe any of this
You do not have to. You can test it: write, and see what comes back. If you conclude that we treated you badly, you have the right to complain to your data protection authority, and you do not need our agreement to do so.